Two links on letting go and eliminting your ego that are FREE and had immediate benefits for me:

http://www.urbanmonk.net/85/the-elusive-key-to-emotional-mastery-is-it-r...

http://www.urbanmonk.net/59/what-your-ego-is-and-how-to-stop-it-from-obs...

These are awesome when dealing with thoughts and emotions. Let me know how they work for you.

And a link to my blog on sexual grounding, which has helped me to more fully appreciate sexuality and attraction. It's still an ongoing effort, but it's getting there:

http://thespgdiaries.blogspot.com/2009/03/sexual-grounding-using-sedona-...

Let me know what you think and if you have any questions.

Over the past three months, I've gone through some amazing changes. I've found that "bulletproof" state where I can just live my life without a single care of what others think, where anxiety over women seems like a quaint, old-fashioned concept and happiness is a way of life, not a goal. Here's what's helped me get there.

Hey Everyone,

As you noticed, I haven't updated in months. I have had this blog for quite some time and I feel I need to change direction.

The community has helped me very much in multiple areas of my life, but the drama of it, the dogmas in it are starting to get more annoying than helping.

With that said, I have participated in that drama too. This blog was not intended for drama. It was intended to track my development in the beginning of the community. So I apologize to anyone affected by my posts.

So, I have taken down 100% of my material. I am sorry to all affiliates and such, our relationship is still active but will probably slow down quite a bit.

Anyway, my life is now more focused on career and finding myself in this world, not so much dating.

When somebody says “that guy’s an asshole,” everybody knows what that means. He’s that guy in the club with the shit eating grin who just motions for the girl you’ve been talking to all night and ten minutes later she’s out the door with him. But not before he takes a moment to look over his shoulder and give you that cocky grin, just to remind you he’s the bastard who took the girl from you without even moving from his spot. He’s that little shit your girlfriend secretly texts when she’s drunk, the guy she would ditch your mother’s funeral to fuck in the back seat of his car if he just said the word.

After working like a dog, looking forward to my two-week vacation, I endured the the most disappointing vacation ever and in the process made a choice to finally start living life, making it one of the most important two weeks of my life.

In response to a completely dead bloggosphere at the moment, I've decided to write up a quite something.

I watched Wedding Crashers for the 167th time the other day, and I realized something. For anyone who hasn't seen it you certainly should, its a great movie. But Owen Wilson's character, goes for this girl in the movie. And there are so many things standing in his way.

1.) She's the Secretary of State's daughter
2.) She has a boyfriend
3.) She later finds out they plan on getting engaged

In that type of situation I would have said, "oh its over" right from the very start, but still he pursues her all he says throughout that movie is "I just need more time"

Sometimes the truth can come at you so hard you have to step back. This post is going to be very personal because I got hit in the face this week with a powerful truth. At first, it hurt, but now I feel very hopeful about living an authentic, happy life going forward.

Let me cut to the chase. I wouldn't waste time with John Alanis (www.johnalais.com) or Joseph Matthews Charm School (www.purepersonality.com), both of which are, in my opinion, vastly overpriced recycled fluff. For the money ($400+), I'd highly recommend a few coaching sessions with AMP (www.authenticsf.com), where you can work with an expert to address your PERSONAL needs.

I’m here to tell you that the romantic notion behind marriage and relationships is society-imposed BS. Relationships and marriages are not what they’re cracked up to be. Most people – men especially – marry for all the wrong reasons, and most men would be far happier being single. Far, far happier.

Over the past few months, I've been coaching BigSend in everything from getting a mission to getting a girlfriend.

It started informally and I have to admit - I've really enjoyed it.