Authentic Man Program – Power of Appreciation Review

This is my long overdue review of Authentic Man Program's Power of Appreciation (AMP's POA). I think the reason it was so overdue is because it was so awesome, I rushed into trying this stuff and had great success and posted a few field reports, then I just sort of coasted, enjoyed what I learned, and moved on.

After going through POA, I had a string of one night stands and now I am in a relationship (which I need to write a post on soon). Surrendered My Nervousness + Opened my Heart = Best Date Ever is a date I had right after the POA program.

The basis of Appreciation is Presence. I wrote a review of Power of Presence here. The idea of being a Present person is you are bringing your life-force or your full energy forward. You are not hiding or holding back. It is a trait that is very attractive to women and is also very dominant too. It is not a tool, but a "behavior" to integrate into your life.

However, just being Present doesn't imply "good." After all, a negative, but Present man is more of a nuisance than anything else. Appreciation is the concept of accepting and being "okay" with your environment and the people around you. Without Presence, you can't truly know and feel what to be appreciative toward—thus, Presence is a requirement here.

With that said, POA is a 3 DVD set along with 1 interview with a polygamous man who really embodies Appreciation in his life. I felt the interview served as a great example and it had some advice in it, but I don't recall it too well at this point. The amazing gems were in the DVD's, and yes they were AMAZING.

Before I dive into it, I must say AMP's organization and media skills are fantastic. It's not a Hollywood production, but their Workbooks and DVD Chapters fall perfectly in line and the Workbook perfectly answers lots of questions I had in my mind after watching. I suggest going through each chapter of video, then reviewing the corresponding pages in the workbook. They go very well together.

A big part of the course is learning how to listen and read another's emotions. With women, this is a crucial skill to hone down (and anyone can do it with devotion). Decker, Bayer and the AMP team go through many demonstrations of looking deep into the AMP Women's eyes, feeling their state, and almost reading their mind through mirroring them so finely.

Chapter 3 of the course is on "Being a Yes" which is the main analogy of Appreciation. In this chapter Decker goes into depth with an example of how he appreciated a woman, but she was very aggressive towards him at first—she was mostly complaining about San Francisco. But after she vented, and Decker remained appreciative to her rambling, he stayed engaged and present with her, and then she became more and more warm to him. It's about appreciating things without taking it personally.

It would easy if everyone/thing were flowery and nice—there would be no point in a POA course like this. But in this crazy world of ours, it takes a lot of balls to stay Appreciative. Being Appreciative brings the best out in people, generally. Chapter 3 ends with introducing the perspectives of what is going on here, and then the program goes into more depth.

So this topic is shown in lots of detail throughout the course.

The next best part of this program is the very end. They show progressive examples, starting from a man who is giving little presence and almost no appreciation, all the way to a man who is extremely present and appreciative. Seeing those demonstrations had 100 light bulbs flick on in my head. It is amazing seeing the differences among the final examples. I can't really explain via words, as feelings and energy are unique in every situation, but if you get POA you will know what I mean.

In my life, I just started a new relationship and at the same time, I feel I have integrated a great deal of presence and appreciation into my normal behavior. I will look at my girlfriend deep in the eye while caressing her, and I will feel her emotions. I tend to know when to speak and when to listen by feeling her emotions (and she does to me too, which is great). I know when to "push" and when to "pull" by being very in synch with her.

This is not manipulation. This is a dance. Power of Appreciation is teaching you some amazing, and even crucial dance steps. I highly, highly recommend this program.

I know this review may seem short, but the course has a lot of exercises and a lot of demonstrations which is hard to write too much on. See also SPG's AMP Phone Session post where he too goes into depth about Appreciation.